Are you curious about bondage? I am here with the BDSM Beginners Basics. Starting with the basics: “BDSM” stands for bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, sadism and masochism—the core pillars of kinky fun. No matter what you’re into, it is important to make sure you are snuggling and practicing lots of aftercare when it’s all said and done. Especially if anyone involved is a painslut and will need icing after some impact play.
Often, people have the misconception that BDSM is tied to sex. And, while it can be for some, others draw a hard line between the two. Both are intense and sensual bodily experiences that are bringing about a lot of strong feelings. However, they are two separate things entirely. Additionally, there is nothing wrong with people into BDSM. This is a huge misconception.
This is why BDSM Beginners Basics is important.
The vanilla folks out there are assuming often judgmental. Often they believe the people into BDSM are fucked up human beings and that is not the case. The people practicing BDSM are your neighbors, teachers, and the lady bagging your groceries. BDSMers are as stable as people that prefer vanilla sex. Fifty Shades of Grey is a poor example of this lifestyle. If you are at an event, don’t use it as a talking point!
There are dominants, submissives, tops, and bottoms. A top could refer to a dominant or a sadist (someone who enjoys inflicting pain), while a bottom could refer to a submissive or a masochist (someone who enjoys receiving pain). This allows you to have a blanket term for those who generally like being on either the giving or receiving end of a BDSM encounter. And no rule says you can’t be both dominant and submissive in different circumstances or with different partners.
To be honest, there is a lot to know, yet you don’t have to know it all.
If you are curious and want to know more, I am happy to discuss it with you during a Hot Phone Sex session. I have a lot of guys that love my Sensual Latina Domme sessions because they are in between vanilla and hardcore. Of course, I am open to anything you desire. Erotic humiliation, GFE sex therapy, SPH, and so much more. Because I don’t have limits we can do whatever you are dreaming about.
One thing that is important with BDSM is doing your research before going too far. Fuzzy handcuffs, ice cubes, or feathers are simple toys anyone can use. However, before you delve into the trickier toys or tools, make sure you learn about safety and understand the dangers as well. Again BDSM beginner’s basics are important before going down any rabbit holes.
Seriously, BDSM involves A LOT of reading and learning.
I just want you to be safe. Well, and have fun, and cum a lot too. Use multiple sources for your information. Know that you can say, “no” if you want to and come up with a safe word before you even start. If you are in a relationship and want to bring it up to your partner, do it! All they can say is no. Of course, they may say yes. You can start by simply picking up a book or checking out things online together.
BDSMers can be monogamous, polyamorous, or whatever the hell they want. Not everyone interested in BDSM has multiple sexual or relationship partners. “It used to be a popular perception that we don’t form long-term relationships,” says Brame. “A lot of BDSMers are just monogamous people. A lot of people just want to do it with their partner or play with big toys at clubs.”
So, this isn’t even the tip of the iceberg for BDSM beginners basics but it gives you some interesting facts. If you want to know more call me. Let’s chat to see if it is a good fit for you! And, as I mentioned earlier, if it isn’t, I have so many other avenues we can go to have our naughty fun!
