Beginners Guide To BDSM: Who are you?
With the introduction of erotic novels and film, BDSM, or bondage & discipline, domination & submission, sadism & masochism; has been brought to the forefront. Other than being an abbreviated set of four letters that show how explains numerous acts, BDSM is defined in the dictionary as: a variety of erotic practices involving dominance and submission, role playing, restraint, and other interpersonal dynamics.
With all that said, I now enter myself, a lifelong lover of BDSM and as my clients know, a switch personality. I often hear clients express their desire to incorporate BDSM into their lives but don’t know where to begin. Personally, I feel it is important to establish what side you prefer to experience prior to making any large commitments, yet a lot of people don’t know where they fit in, until now.
Within BDSM there are three personality types that an individual can fall into, they include dominant or dom, submissive or sub, and switch. A dominant is defined as: the ‘top’ or ‘man’ simply the individual who maintains the sexual control. Next up a submissive, a submissive is defined as: the ‘bottom’ or ‘woman’ simply meaning the individual who is under the sexual control of a dominant.Lastly, the switch. A switch is defined as: an in between if you will. This simply depicts an individual who enjoys being both a dominant and a submissive and ‘switches’ back and forth.Now that we have a grasp on personalities, where do you fall? Answer the questions below and match up your results to find out. Be sure to email them to me and let me know if I was correct!
1. In a relationship, do you,
a. assume control
b. follow the lead
c. go with the flow and fill in where is needed
2. At work, do you,
a. enjoy leading a team
b. prefer not to be responsible for others and large responsibilities
c. don’t mind either or as long as the work is done
3. It’s a perfect Saturday night, do you,
a. call up your friends and tell them the plans
b. call up your friends and ask them the plans
c. receive a call asking if you are okay with an idea for the nights plans
4. Do you mind or even enjoy being humiliated, mistreated, and punished?
a. are you kidding me? ME! do you know who you’re talking to?
b. yes! where do I sign up?
c. it’s fun every now and again to do if things need to be spiced up
5. You are going out to dinner with your significant other, who automatically assumes the wheel?
a. me, not letting that crazy ball and chain jack up my car insurance
b. my significant other, I’m not into all the road rage
c. whoever grabs the keys, is dressed and in the car first
6. You and your significant other solved the driving dilemma now who picks the restaurant?
a. me, I know all the best spots
b. my significant other, I don’t mind where, i’ll try anything
c. whoever isn’t driving, why should they get to make all the decisions ?
Add up your answers to reveal your results!
Mostly A’s
Congratulations! You were born a dominant or dom for short.
You enjoy being the one in control and maintaining all the power. With that said, you don’t like being told what to do so be sure to do your best listening when discussing BDSM.
Mostly B’s
Hello there Submissive one! You came out a person who doesn’t mind following directions. You enjoy watching someone else take the lead and being free of the responsibility of decision making. Being the bottom doesn’t make you the weaker one, I mean, you have to be pretty tough withstand a dom’s punishment.
Mostly C’s
You are a SWITCH! No one can ever figure you or your sexual mood out as they change like the wind. You enjoy each roles and don’t like being labeled or stuck in a role. The chameleon of BDSM, a Switch knows how to play any role.
Hope that this Beginners Guide To BDSM: Who are you? was helpful.
