Strap, Play, Slay: My Way
As a Domme and Mistress in BDSM I’ve insisted that my submissive’s are chaste. Usually by way of a chastity device to which I hold the keys. Some of the most potent memories I have with my slaves have been those times when they first realize just what actual chastity really means. When they start begging for release especially when the tears come. The gasping relief and gratitude when I personally unlock their cage always spice it up!!
Buckle Up-Spice It Up
The erection which springs free at that point represents several enjoyable aspects combined. A shared fetish, the power exchange, their endurance through the lock-up until this point. My control over such a powerfully motivating part of them and there’s still the anticipation. Of whether it’s simply the erection that will be enjoyed or an ejaculatory orgasm as well.
A newly released slave erection is so much fun, and the power/control attached as a Domme is addicting and exhilarating. Also, watching a slave attempt to get their erect penis back into a chastity device. Whether they were denied an ejaculatory orgasm or they were allowed the rare privilege is absolutely hilarious.
It’s not only real, live erections I ever get to see, as I mentioned towards the start of this blog. I think most adults have seen a bit of porn at some point in their lives. Whether you deliberately go searching for it or you get accidental porn-in-the-eyes through Google image search. Even if non-phallic sex and porn is your thing I still bet it’d be hard to find an adult who has never seen a picture of a hard dick.
Spice It Up-Dare to Share
Being in the adult industry I probably see more than my fair share of erect cock porn pics. Because I see them in the context of my work, they don’t have any sexual effect on me. It’s just a case of, “Oh, erect cock. Right.”
Besides, I don’t know these people in porn and professional adult photography who are proudly displaying and using their erections. If I do go looking for porn to spice it up and enjoy it in an erotic sense.
I don’t ever search for penis pictures to titillate my mind and body. Personally, I find the female bodies and actions much more sexually arousing. If there’s a penis or three involved then they’re simply to provide the woman with the stimulation she wants in that scene. For me, the porn erection is a practical tool, not a visually pleasing element in its own right. The term ‘stunt cock’ comes to mind.
Strap-ons are great fun. I really enjoy using them on other people. In the past on male submissives for pegging, and nowadays on both my male partner and female lovers. As well as having them used on me. That said, I just don’t feel the same sense of sexual attraction. To a lover wearing a strap-on as I do to my partner’s real, flesh-and-blood-penis erection.
Empower, Play, Enjoy: Harnessing Desire
Strap-ons are sex accessories for me to spice it up in bed. They’re fun to use, both wearing one myself and bouncing it around and being playfully menacing as well as hopping on a female lover’s strapped-on cock. They’re nothing more than dildos held to the body with the strap harness though, so all of my thoughts, thrills, attraction, and arousal related to penis erections simply don’t apply.
When I’m pegging my male partner with a strap on it’s because of the enjoyment he’s getting out of the anal sex. I’m giving him, not because I imagine that I have a penis. I have friends who do love to imagine they have a penis, and there’s all sorts of brilliant gender fluid and gender queer fun potential there, but it’s just not me.
The same when I’m using a strapped-on dildo on a female lover, or when I’m riding her strapped-on dildo. It’s my attraction to the woman herself which makes me and keeps me aroused. Not the sense that I’m wielding or fucking an erect penis. I’m about the fuck which turns me on, not the fact she has a silicone dong attached to her groin.
It’s been fascinating analyzing how, when and why I might find an erection sexy. Like a lot of other women, I bemoan the fact that I receive so many dick pics, and it’s true. That without any of the context I’ve discussed above I just don’t find the erections in those photos sexy. In fact, they’re a complete turn-off, an insult. But in the right situations, with the right people, an erect penis can be a beautiful, thrilling, highly arousing thing.
